My husband is cheating on me, and the situation is even worse than I initially thought. I had my suspicions for a while but decided to ignore them to avoid causing myself unnecessary stress.

One night, out of the blue, he insisted we needed to move to Tema. This was strange because we owned our home in Pokuase, and his job was close by. Despite my objections, he pushed for the move and even took a new job in Tema that paid him 1,500 cedis less than what he was making before. To make it happen, we rented out our house and used some of our savings to get a place in Tema.

Once we relocated, everything changed. He started coming home late, rarely ate at home, and would often leave without any explanation. It became unbearable, so I decided to do some digging to figure out what was going on. I checked his phone one day when he was in the shower and found countless messages between him and this woman. He had saved her number under a fake name, but the messages were clear. They talked about how much they missed each other, made plans to meet up at her place, and even discussed having children together. He called her all sorts of pet names and even said he couldn’t wait to marry her in a traditional ceremony.

I noticed he had been deleting call logs and messages from her, but I managed to recover some of them. That’s when I found out that he had been using me as an excuse to get out of the house and spend time with her. He told her that he had to stay with me only because of our children. They went on secret trips, and he even took her to the same places he used to take me on special occasions. He bought her expensive gifts, things he never bought for me, and even got her a ring as a promise of their future together.

The worst part was discovering that he made us move just to be closer to her. She lives in Tema, and he would go straight to her place after work, spending the night there while I waited at home, wondering why he was late again. He would come home smelling like her perfume, claiming he was tired from work, and barely touch the food I prepared. One time, I found a receipt from a jewelry store in his pocket, and when I confronted him, he said it was a gift for his sister, but I never saw the gift. I later found out it was for her.

When I found all the evidence, I went straight to his family and showed them everything. We had a heated family meeting, and instead of showing any remorse, he brazenly told everyone that he’s doing his part as a husband and father, and if I can’t accept him taking another woman, then I should consider leaving. His family suggested I take some time to think it over since he’s made it clear he has no intention of changing his plans.

Our next meeting is coming up, and I’m seriously considering telling them I’m done with this marriage. We’ve been married for 11 years and have four children, but I can’t keep living like this. On top of everything, my husband isn’t even fully responsible for our home. I work hard, pay part of the kids’ school fees, and contribute to the household expenses, while he’s out there living a double life.

It’s heartbreaking and infuriating at the same time. I feel so betrayed, but I also know I deserve better. Should I leave or stay? I need your advice. There’s so much more, but it’s too painful to put it all here. (IG: loveandpillsgh)