I’m Esi, a level 200 student at Legon, and I need to vent because my love life is turning into a serious drama. I’ve been dating this guy for over a year and four months now, and it’s been nothing short of a rollercoaster.

This guy? He’s been giving me serious problems. He insults me all the time and sometimes even gets physical. On top of that, he’s always accusing me of cheating with his friends, even though I’ve been nothing but faithful. It’s like his default setting is jealousy and anger. After all the drama, he’ll come back, saying he loves me and begging for another chance. It’s honestly exhausting.

I take care of everything for myself—my fees, my upkeep, everything. He just adds more stress to my life. But here’s where it gets even complicated: I recently met a new guy who seems like a breath of fresh air. He’s kind, respectful, and actually treats me with the love and respect I deserve. He’s everything my current boyfriend isn’t.

I’m hesitating to fully get involved with this new guy because I don’t want to add more fuel to my current boyfriend’s jealousy fire. He’s already convinced I’m cheating, and I’m scared that if he finds out about this new guy, he’ll lose it even more. The drama could explode, and I don’t need that kind of chaos.

I’m stuck between wanting to give this new guy a chance and staying in this toxic relationship. I really need advice on whether I should take the risk with this new flame or stick it out with my current boyfriend and hope things might get better.